Do you avoid and procrastinate pursuing a goal because you know it will be met with opposition by those around you?  Do you let a task become so big in your mind that it seems too difficult and is thereby classified as unachievable?  Do you find yourself constantly saying that you don’t have time for this, that, or the other?  If any of these rings true for you I think you’ll find this a great read.

Holding Yourself Back – Being Accepted

We all want our little peccadilloes seen and accepted by our peers, to have the love, support, and comfort of our loved ones; but when those wants turn into roadblocks that hinder your passage on the trail of Who and How you are then it’s time to reevaluate your course.

Robbing Others
Cloaking a characteristic of your Self deprives those around you of opportunities to enrich their own lives just as much as it denies you the chance to develop yours.

Being the brave one who forges through the retaining wall of fears release waves of people around you from their own fears and you essentially become a leader for them to do the same.

Change Reflects Un-Chased Dreams
A life sought outside of the established family or friend radius can send a shock wave through those around you.  Feelings of surprise, disturbance, and potential jealousy unleash within them an unwelcome force which evaluates their own lives, their place in the world, and their individual accomplishments or their perceived lack thereof.

Many people have imagined a life for themselves other than the one they lead.  Your ambition and active pursuit of your dreams has those folks remembering goals they’ve never brought to fruition.

There’s a great deal of discomfort felt when one is reminded of unfilled aspirations and most especially when the one doing the reminding is in hot pursuit of a goal.

It’s simply easier to take the focus off of themselves and attempt to knock you down a peg or two; hence the phrases “cut her down to size,” or “bring her back down to reality.” 

By moving forward you unveil them as the only engineer on their scenic route of what may appear as an endless landscape of stagnation and entrenchment in the past.

Holding Yourself Back – The Drama of Change

These are ugly truths that many people do not and will not be eager to face.  They often will opt instead to travel along the Displaced-Blame highway, which runs adjacent to the Tear You Down Interchange and crosses with Cut You Out of My Life National Park.

Fingers may be pointed and attacks launched as you’re blessed with a slew of other comments and opinions that let you know who your friends really are as some attempt to drag you down, make you feel unworthy, and essentially keep you on their map.

Projection
Remember that when there’s a finger pointing at you the pointer has three fingers pointing back at them.  It’s an ego driven game of projection and their problem is exactly that… their problem.

Initiate a Dialogue
Talk openly and candidly about what you’re doing, what you’re aspiring to do and they will either love, respect and appreciate having you as a growing wonderful creation in their life or they wont.  But that is their choice.

Keep Driving
You are a divine, magnificent creation who deserves to shine.  There will be those who will find your light too bright and will choose a darker venue better suited for the chosen gloom over the diagram of their life.  That is again their choice… shine on. 

The Goal Is Too Big
If you’ve ever had a grand idea then it likely didn’t take long before you had completely over thought it.  The voice, you may call reason, started to chatter about all the “what ifs” your inspiration may or may not bring, your excitement turned to fear, your start was halted, and the hitch in your giddy-up had been grounded.

Lee Iacocca once said that “the discipline in writing something down is the first step.”  While W. Clement Stone said “what you can conceive you can achieve.” 

Nothing you imagine is ever out of your reach, although you may notice times when you have taken great measures to make sure they never were attained.

Take the Stairs
Think it, write it down, and then take the first step.  You don’t need to see the whole stair case to know that the first step leads to somewhere… so just take it.

Never Enough Time
The days often seem filled with a gazillion have-to-do’s on a mental monster of a list so long and heavy that we haven’t the energy, the patience, or the courage for anything for our Self.

Have Patience
We offer patience to those who bend our ear to vent, the hurried seemingly angry driver in traffic, the annoying peccadilloes of a loved one, the grouchy and gossiping co-workers, and the short people who tug incessantly at our shirt for attention.

Becoming Who You Are is no small feat.  When creating your desired reality grant your Self some of those much given but infrequently shared patience.

Holding Yourself Back – Life is Imagination in Action

Life is a series of choices, one right after the other.  The questions that need to be an active part of your conscious thought are: “Am I wearing a mask to avoid drama,” “Are my choices reflecting who I am,” and “Am I patient with myself?” If not, why? What are you afraid of, what are your beliefs about what you deserve?

A life lived in restraint and fear of the “what ifs” is not life in the truest sense.  Life is meant to go beyond conceiving of great things, speaking phenomenal words, telling astonishing tales, and into the realm of experiencing the wonderment of all that you can imagine.

To truly be living your life and be inherently happy in each moment is to be living courageously; to live courageously you are thinking bravely, rather you realize it or not.

I would like to close this article with a quote from Marianne Williamson’s book, Return to Love:

“Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate. Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure. It is our light, not our darkness that most frightens us. We ask ourselves, Who am I to be brilliant, gorgeous, talented, fabulous? Actually, who are you not to be? You are a child of God. Your playing small does not serve the world. There is nothing enlightened about shrinking so that other people won’t feel insecure around you. We are all meant to shine, as children do. We were born to make manifest the glory of God that is within us. It’s not just in some of us; it’s in everyone. And as we let our own light shine, we unconsciously give other people permission to do the same. As we are liberated from our own fear, our presence automatically liberates others.”

Most Sincerely,
KimChell Haskell